Good For You, Girlfriend...But I Am Not There Yet

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We have all been there.

 

You know that time in our life when we find ourselves celebrating with friends, family and school yard moms over their healthy living breakthroughs and successes but we aren't celebrating any ourselves. We know that place where we feel like we are watching everyone become happier and healthier but we feel stuck. We wonder why we aren't making progress on our own health goals. We might even be following a program or be elbow-deep in a 3 -week challenge, but still we aren't seeing or, even more importantly, feeling what we were hoping to. 

Instead we are sorta looking at our friend, who we are truly happy for because, ya know, there is no "mean girling" here, and thinking, "Well, good for you, girlfriend... but, I'm not there yet." 

 

That might cause a bit of a chain reaction in us where we start feeling a little sad and beating ourselves up. We think, "Why can't I get there? What am I doing wrong?" (Now I am going to get to some action steps in a minute but before I do, if you are saying that, stop it. You are perfect. So don't forget it.) But I know feeling that way can be quite real. 

 

Then we might start getting a little mad, right? We think, "Well, shoot, all I ate was a yogurt and banana for breakfast, then avocado toast with a protein bar for lunch. I should be rocking skinny jeans by now!" I have a little battle with the need for instant gratification, so if this is a direct quote from you, I can totally relate. 

 

Maybe sometime after that, a little pessimistic cloud starts lumbering overhead and we wonder if we will ever get beyond these feelings. Perhaps those goals you can see yourself achieving in your mind are just never going to happen. Maybe you should just forget it. (Again I am gonna sidebar here and just say stop that, too. You are awesome and you will get there.) But that feeling is hard to kick.

 

Look, if you find yourself wallowing in some of these feelings when you reflect on your personal progress, start by acknowledging those feelings. They are there and they want you to notice, so notice. 

But don't stand there "noticing" for too long. They are a signal that you have to switch gears. 

 

If you find yourself feeling like everyone else is hitting those goals but you are feeling stuck, you need to start taking positive action right away. When you do, you are going to shake off the negative feelings and start replacing them with good, positive feelings, the ones that we LOVE so much.

But you have to be proactive.

So here are some positive action steps for you to consider:

 

 

Get Your Stress In Check

 

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If you are not seeing weight loss goals accomplished, or sleep goals, or mood goals, or... oh, I could go on... check your stress. Stress can seriously interfere with progress in each of those areas and more. In general, I feel like we don't give stress its due credit until it gets wildly out of control but the truth is that stress is powerful and it interferes in our lives on many levels. The sooner we decide to invest a little time, a little energy, and a little love into stress management, the better. There are many self care practices that lend themselves to reducing stress, (This one is one of my favorites and it is a regular practice for me!)  But there are many ways to reduce stress. Finding what works for you is key. So find one that works for you. Find MANY that work for you and USE THEM.

 

 

Change Things Up! 

 

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If you aren't seeing and feeling what you want, try something new. I once heard that what we are looking for is just outside our comfort zone and that has always resonated with me. We keep habits that are comfortable to us. We know them. They feel like a warm fuzzy blanket. But if those habits aren't giving us the results we want, the good moods, the high energy, the greats sleeps and the healthy weight... well, comfy or not, those habits have to get traded in for something new. 

 

Fair enough, right?

 

This is not always easy. I know.

Most of what I do as a coach is walk busy moms through the process of trading out old habits for new, healthier habits. If you add in one healthy habit at a time, before you know it, you have built healthier lifestyle that you can keep for a lifetime.  

So, if you are not where you want to be, consider a change in how you get there. What is one healthy habit you can build into your life right now?

Decide. Then do it. 

 

 

Embrace Your Wonderful Self and All You Have Already Accomplished.

 

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Oh, yes. This is where I am going to get all warm and fuzzy on you. 

 

Well, come on. Let's be honest. If we are bringing up the topic of not being where you want to be in your journey, it doesn't come along with feelings of joy and laughter. It actually gets us feeling a little down. (We covered that, right?)

 

So, I want you to think about addressing your stress, I want you to think about how you can change things up AND I want you to sprinkle some serious love over you for already having done what you have done.

You haven't accomplished anything yet?

Oh, bologna!

I am going to make some assumptions here but I am guessing you are a busy mom like me SO you run your home, raise some beautiful chillies, handle 1,000 tasks throughout the day, many at the same time! You are probably a chef, a chauffeur, a teacher, a time keeper, and a referee. Ok if you haven't hit every goal mark as of yet, Super Woman, cut yourself some slack and know that you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Your journey is YOUR journey for a reason: it is meant for nobody but you. 

 

Embrace the progress you have made. Celebrate that you done some pretty remarkable things in your life. (You know you have!) Be proud of yourself. Throw some serious love in your own direction and then decide what is next.

If you need some support with that, we can help with that in the Real Moms Collaborative, our online community for busy moms. If you want more support than that and you are so, so ready for a free Breakthrough Coaching session with me, let's do it. (Just scroll down, Momma!)  If you have totally got this solo, just know that I am sending all the love, strength and positive vibes that you need in your direction right now. When moms support moms, there is no limit to what they can achieve.

I know you can do this. 

 

Thank you for reading!

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Hey, Momma! I am Michelle. I am a busy mom of 3, a certified holisitc health coach and owner of Real Moms, Real Health.  I studied at the Institute of Integratvie Nutrition and I am  Board Certified by the American Association of Drugless Practitioners. In addition to giving workshops and lectures, I work with busy moms to find a healthy weight, have more energy and inspire health in their household. I have simple strategies that any mom can use to make healthy living EASY. Learn more about my programs by checking out my website.  And don't forget to follow me on FACEBOOKTWITTER OR INSTAGRAM.

Bring Your Family Activity Level Up, Up, Up!

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There is no doubt about it.

One of the essentials to healthy living for you and your family is getting up and getting moving.  

This is true for parents and true for kids. 

But these don't need to be separate events. (Like maybe you go to the gym and your child heads to soccer practice or something like that...)  In fact, one thing I absolutely love is being active together as a family. Whether it is hiking a new trail together or playing catch in the backyard, everything is always better when we are doing it together. 

But....

...thanks to jam-packed schedules, after-school activities, work, work and more work, not to mention the amount of technology working against us, lots of moms find that staying active as a family is a challenge.  

 

I want to help you work right through that. 

 

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I know you know WHY we should increase our activity level as a family:

  • Active kids will more likely grow into active adults. 
  • Being active together adds to family time and bonding. 
  • Exercise helps us clear our minds, reduces stress, and improves our mood. (Good for us AND good for kids!)
  • The more we move the easier it is to maintain a healthy weight. 
  • Being active as a family is FUN!  

I could go on but you get the point, right?

 

You know WHY! The problem is HOW! 

 

It can be done! 

 

Let's move our families off of the couch and out from behind those tech screens.

Let's get them into the backyard, onto local hiking trail or to the beach for a game of volleyball.

Let's shift from what is our current "normal" into a more active life.

 

Try this!

 

1. Shift Your Thinking.

If you decide that you want to be a more active family, see it, breathe it and then live it.

Accept this as your truth and embrace it!

Before I had children, I envisioned myself as a mom. I saw myself feeding my family healthy food. I saw us meditating. I saw us practicing yoga. I saw myself on runs with my kids. I saw us hiking. I saw us camping.  

I could see it in my mind and I embraced that as my reality...BEFORE IT EVEN HAPPENED.

Even before I had my mini-humans in my life, I saw what I wanted our life to look like and it was almost like I could see the future becasue so much of what I pictured became reality.

Visualizing is an important first step. If you can't see it in your mind you don't know what you are working towards.

Once you envisioning it, it is so much easier to manifest.  

 

2. Clear The Way

If your current lifestyle doesn't include time for family activity, clear the way. The time is there, I promise.

Say no. Postpone. Reschedule. PRIORITIZE. 

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Say YES to an early morning bike first. Then "ok, fine" to the chores and errands later.

Make plans to visit the beach, a zoo, a museum or a park.  WRITE IT ON THE CALENDAR. (It makes it more real.)

Leave the dishes after dinner and head outside with a frisbee or a ball to toss. (The dishes don't mind waiting.)

Once you decide that you truly want to be more active and decide it will be so, you will find the time if you really, really, really promise to make it a priority. 

 

 

 

3. Get Uncomfortable. 

This step does NOT require that you get active, pull a muscle, then smile through the pain.

No.

All I mean by "get uncomfortable" is this: right now we all have some "comfortable" habits that we might be looking to change. 

Maybe the kids leave the dinner table and grab their tablets.

Maybe you spend Sunday morning catching up on shows. 

Maybe family time includes a game console and limited blinking.  

These things have become comfortable parts of our lives. 

You don't have to have a big plan. Just get up, get moving and see what adventures await! 

You don't have to have a big plan. Just get up, get moving and see what adventures await! 

To get "uncomfortable" means to do something a little unfamiliar, something that isn't yet our norm and to avoid leaning back into our comfortable, not-so-active habits. 

When you feel yourself cozying up to a comfortable old habit that you are trying to change, catch yourself. 

If you catch yourself about to say the usual, "Let's stay in and watch movies," SHAKE IT OFF and remember that you are a more active family now.  Go on family walk after dinner.

You will thank yourself later. 

 

Let's keep this conversation going!

 I want to invite you to join our online community of moms supporting moms called

The Real Moms Collaborative.

We are building healthier lives for ourselves and our families one step at a time! 

See you there! 


Michelle and crew! 

Michelle and crew! 

Hey, Momma! I am Michelle. I am a busy mom of 3, a certified holisitc health coach and owner of Real Moms, Real Health.  I studied at the Institute of Integratvie Nutrition and I am  Board Certified by the American Association of Drugless Practitioners. In addition to giving workshops and lectures, I work with busy moms to find a healthy weight, have more energy and inspire health in their household. I have simple strategies that any mom can use to make healthy living EASY. Learn more about my programs by checking out my website.  And don't forget to follow me on FACEBOOKTWITTER OR INSTAGRAM.

Traveling Healthy with the Kids

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If you are reading this then you probably know two things: First, healthy living is a priority for me and my family. Second, we are spending this summer in the land of beer and pretzels.

Obviously this could be tricky.

I knew going in that it would be a challenge for me to maintain some semblance of a healthy diet while we are away but still indulging in the amazing sights, sounds and TASTES of Munich. 

Our saving grace is that we have a "home base" while we are here, a place to come home to each night, cook and eat. Not eating out 3 meals a day makes a huge difference because looking at any spiesekarte (menu) has me and the kids drooling at the mouth. It isn't always easy to choose the healthiest choice on the menu. I want to choose all of my favorites, some are a teeny bit less healthy than others. (Wink, wink)

So, with a home base, we are able to shop for many of our meals. At home I prioritize salads, fresh veggies and fruits while still adding some of the tastes of Munich that the kids love: leberkase, gelbwurst, bratwurst, weiswurst, and so much more. When we are off exploring we bring apples, crackers or carrots that we bought from the market. Not only do we have snacks on hand when we are out, we also avoid over-priced concessions should we happen to be in a popular tourist spot. 

Once we settled in and got a feel for the lay of the land, so to speak, I implemented 3 simple ways to maintain some healthy eating habits while we are enjoying our summer in Munich. These are 3 simple strategies you can use where ever you travel! 

 

Three Ways to Travel Healthy with Kids: 

1. Shop

Grabbing some of the basics is easy.... and seriously inexpensive.  

Grabbing some of the basics is easy.... and seriously inexpensive.  

Whether you have a home base or you are staying at a hotel, there are local markets, supermarkets and specialty stores SOMEWHERE.

Find them.

When you do, you will have some basics for either eating at home once in a while or at least having a few snacks for while you are out. You don't want to be stuck empty handed when you have a hungry kid and an ambitious list of things to do that day. 

Also, when you have some snacks on the go, you don't get stuck having to buy something in a tourist hot spot that is 12 times the price you would get somewhere else. Save the splurging so you can make the most of it.

 

A "snack pack" of carrots that we take with us pretty much everyday! Love these!  

A "snack pack" of carrots that we take with us pretty much everyday! Love these!  

2. Keep prioritizing fresh fruits and veggies. 

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If veggies were important before, keep them that way. Snack on carrots, peppers, mushrooms, cucumbers and whatever else you and your little guys love. Plus, be sure to sample new fresh local veggies, too! If you prepare meals at home or the hotel, make sure to make veggies the star. 

My kids are obsessed with local wurst and cold cuts. I make sure they get them but also load the plate with other treasures from the local market.  

Photo credit: my son!  

Photo credit: my son!  

3. Water Bottles

Water bottles are key.  

You can save a ton of money by avoiding the purchase of water, soda and juice while you travel. We purchased water bottles while here in Munich that serve multiple purposes: part souvenir, part environmentally friendly choice, and big money saver.  I highly recommend always having a refillable water bottle when traveling.

 

These are 3 very simple strategies any health-conscious, traveling family can use while out on the road. Whether you are taking a day trip to a local destination or boarding a plane for an overseas adventure, it is definitely possible to continue to prioritize healthy eating while away from home. 

 

Stay tuned for more from our Munich adventure coming soon!  

 

Thanks for reading! Aufwiedersehn!