self care

Summer Self Care Essentials

I didn't include an awesome sun hat on my originally list, but I am starting to regret that...

I didn't include an awesome sun hat on my originally list, but I am starting to regret that...

 

I already adore this season: my kids are home, schedules are more relaxed, days are longer, fresh fruit and veggies are everywhere... what's not to love?

Besides all of the regularly-scheduled awesomeness, I always like to set some professional and personal goals as a new season begins. (If we have been acquainted for a while, you probably already know that about me.) 

For this summer, one of my personal goals is to recommit to self care. In fact, I would say I have made a pretty serious commitment to self care this summer. 

It is safe to say that self care is an important part of my life already, but like any busy mom some things get put off, postponed, shortened, replaced, or any other 1,000's of ways we can be going along and suddenly realize, oops, something is missing. 

 

This recently happened to me in a conversation.

 

So there I was, just minding my own business moving through the day-to-day of my busy life. A mom friend of mine was discussing crazy schedules, stress, and all the fun that comes with motherhood. When we finally began discussing stress management and self care, she innocently said to me, "You dry brush everyday, right?" 

(pause)
Um....
Yes! 
Well, wait. 
I didn't this morning.
I didn't yesterday either. 
You know what?
I guess I haven't actually used my precious dry brush in a few weeks. 
Omg, a few WEEKS!?! How did THAT happen?

 

See, there was this HUGE block of my life when I did, indeed, dry brush every single day. 

 

And it was lovely.

 

Then there was those few days when one of the kids were sick, then I was sick, then our schedules changed, then they changed again, then we went away for the weekend,... 

...and now here we are. WEEKS since I last used my dry brush. 

 

I know I am not alone.

Life just runs us round and round sometimes and when we stop and check in, we realize a few things have gotten neglected. 

No big deal, it is totally normal. And the only way to deal with it is to embrace where you are, release the guilt, and start anew. 

For me it is with self care. If you are like every single other mom I know, you have got a little extra room for self care, too. 

 

What kind of things do you need to make summertime self care awesome? Let me show you a few simple things! 


DRY BRUSH

So naturally this is where we are going to start. You can join me in a serious re-commitment to dry brushing on a daily basis. You can rest assured that there are even more positive benefits to this healthy habit that go beyond what you can see and feel. 

Check out more info on dry brushing in this quick read.  

 


AFFIRMATIONS CARDS

Ready to add some self love and positivity to your life? Then you oughta grab these sassy affirmations. Starting your day with an affirmation is something that sets the tone for the rest of the day. I see the difference in my day when I make time for this each morning. These cards are so darn cute you can even incorporate this into a family activity this summer. 

 


BEACH CHAIR

Mamas, no summer would be complete without letting go of all stress and responsibilities while sitting on the beach. In the summer, this is the ultimate in self care. Grab your beach chair, fill up your water bottle, grab the sun screen and dig those toes in the sand. 

 


JOURNAL

Whether you create a summer habit of gratitude journaling or daily reflections, grab a journal like this one and head outside. Spiral bound journals are perfect if you are writing in the yard, on the front porch during the sunrise, or even at the beach. 


BATH BOMBS

Nothing oozes self care like a luxurious bath at the end of the day. I love these homemade bath bombs because they are made with some of my favorite things, like shea butter and essential oils. Believe me, if you don't make time for this it will never just happen...so go for it! 


A summer of self care can absolutely happen outside of these fun extras that you might include. Creating a morning ritual of setting intentions, quiet mediation, and a healthy breakfast is just one simple way you can make it happen. 

 

Only you know where you want to begin. 

 

After you spend some time thinking about your own personal summer of self care, be sure to share with me and other health-conscious moms in our online community, the Real Moms Collaborative. It is the perfect spot if you need any more inspiration, some motivation, or accountability! 

 

 

5 Minutes for Mommy

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Just sitting down to write this post made me want to take a huge inhale in..... hold....and release a big, wonderful, cleansing exhale.  

Go ahead.  

You do it, too. 

Breathe in the positivity and love.

Hold that breath.  

Now let it go and release any negativity you are feeling today. 

Go ahead and do that a few more times.  

Feels great, right?

And just like that you took back (not even) 5 minutes for mommy.  

As busy moms sometimes all we feel like we get is 5 minutes for ourselves. We squeeze those 5-minutes in here and there, IF we are lucky. But those 5-minutes can be totally worth it.

When we find the time, we try, try, try to do a little something for ourselves. We take a mental break and maybe even treat ourselves to something in those 5 minutes. 

We deserve and NEED those 5 minutes and THEN SOME.  

But let’s stop and think for a second about how we are using those 5 minutes.  Are we checking Facebook and power-eating a sleeve of Oreos? (Which I have done. Yes, I have.) So, maybe. And well, shoot, seriously sometimes commenting on my girlfriend’s adorable puppy pictures and a mega-sugar rush are the only things saving my kids from the ultimate mommy meltdown, so I might have to go with it.   

 

But if that become a habit, it will become a problem.

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Instead of relying on social media and sweet treats when it comes to taking 5-minutes for ourselves, I want to encourage you to change it up.

We can empower those 5 minutes to make us feel refreshed, energized and positive

We can make the most of that little bit of time. 

So, because I love you and I know that sometimes all you get are 5 minutes, here are some of my favorite, tried-and-true healthy, happy swaps that i regularly use to help me make the most of the 5-minutes I get for myself: 

  • Instead of checking social media, listen to 5 minutes of your favorite podcast. 
  • Instead of getting lost in the TV, spend 5 minutes in a new book, trashy or otherwise! 
  • Instead of sitting down with a coffee, make your own matcha green tea. The process is so soothing!  
  • Instead of pouring a little glass of wine in the evening, call your mom, sister or bestie. Hearing your favorite voices is soothing to the soul.  
  • Instead of grabbing a few sweets, pour a tall glass of lemon water.  
  • Instead of catching up on the latest gossip, jot down 3 reasons you are grateful and add that to your gratitude jar.
  • And when all else fails, just breathe. Breathe in the positivity, breathe out the negativity. That might be good enough when it comes to treating yourself well.  

 

 

Sure, the “naughty” 5 minute steals feel good sometimes, but it is what we do MOST of the time that makes the difference. Try some of these healthier swaps for the next time you get 5 minutes to yourself. Tell me if you notice a difference. Share your experience with me or share your experience with our amazing and supportive community of moms, The Real Moms Collaborative.

We would love to hear from you.  

 

 

If you want to schedule some time to chat with me about making these self care strategies a reality even if you feel overwhelmed by your hectic mommy to-do list, click here!  I have been there, girlfriend. We can make this happen! 

Caring For the Busy Mom's Heart

I believe we need a self care revolution. My goal as a holistic health coach to busy moms is to make self care as normal as brushing our teeth and that morning cup of coffee (or green tea, whatever the case may be). 

In my ideal world, you might plan dinner, plan your errands and then plan your next epsom salt bath and download a new guided meditation. I want us to prioritize our self care as much as we prioritize the care of everyone and everything else. 

Self care is vital to good health.

You can eat a kale salad everyday but unless you care for yourself on a deeper level you will only be able to take your health and wellness so far. That is why every mom that works with me knows that we are not just going to talk about meal plans and superfoods. We are going to talk about caring for ourselves, mind, body and soul, as well in order to achieve true wellness. 

Implied in that equation is caring for the busy mom's heart. It seems pretty timely to focus on the busy mom's heart as we get ready to celebrate Valentine's Day. This is not a task that should be assigned to a sweetheart or significant other. Caring for our heart is on us. It is something we must prioritize as part of a healthy lifestyle. 

Caring for the busy mom hearts doesn't have to be complicated either. 

 

The key to a healthy heart is a healthy diet. 

The key to a happy heart is gratitude. 

 

You need both. 

 

Today we are focused on the latter.

I am going to share my 3 favorite ways to live with more gratitude in order to care for your busy mom heart:

  1. Guided meditation that focus on gratitude- Lately I have been practicing guided meditation during the day when I have some time to myself or first thing in the morning. I have noticed a huge difference in my mood, demeanor and happiness. There are many guided meditations that you can find on the internet, but here are two I love. Try these or find something that works best for you. 
  2. Gratitude Journal- This is a perfect way to end the day. Taking even just 5 minutes to jot down the people and things you can be grateful for each day is a simple way to practice gratitude. Personally, it reminds me just how lucky I really am. Every mom that tries this practice notices the positive effect it has on the heart. It is simple and effective.
  3. Say "THANK YOU" and say it often- In fact, over-say it. Show it, too. This weekend I named 3 people who helped me in some way last week and then I sat down and wrote them thank you notes. I had already thanked them and hugged them at the time of the favor/gesture. But I wanted to go a little further. I know that my extra effort will be appreciated but more than that, I have to tell you, writing those thank you notes made me feel really good, too. It felt great to pause and show true gratitude for the friends in my life that I can truly count on. Who can you share some extra gratitude with? 

These are three simple ways that the busiest mom can care for her heart even when time is hard to spare. Choose one of these suggestions or even something else that works for you and see the change it brings to your life. Share your experiences, your questions and your victories with us in our online community, The Real Moms Collaborative. 

 

Thank you so much for reading!