Good For You, Girlfriend...But I Am Not There Yet

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We have all been there.


You know that time in our life when we find ourselves celebrating with friends, family and school yard moms over their healthy living breakthroughs and successes but we aren't celebrating any ourselves. We know that place where we feel like we are watching everyone become happier and healthier but we feel stuck. We wonder why we aren't making progress on our own health goals. We might even be following a program or be elbow-deep in a 3 -week challenge, but still we aren't seeing or, even more importantly, feeling what we were hoping to. 

Instead we are sorta looking at our friend, who we are truly happy for because, ya know, there is no "mean girling" here, and thinking, "Well, good for you, girlfriend... but, I'm not there yet." 


That might cause a bit of a chain reaction in us where we start feeling a little sad and beating ourselves up. We think, "Why can't I get there? What am I doing wrong?" (Now I am going to get to some action steps in a minute but before I do, if you are saying that, stop it. You are perfect. So don't forget it.) But I know feeling that way can be quite real. 


Then we might start getting a little mad, right? We think, "Well, shoot, all I ate was a yogurt and banana for breakfast, then avocado toast with a protein bar for lunch. I should be rocking skinny jeans by now!" I have a little battle with the need for instant gratification, so if this is a direct quote from you, I can totally relate. 


Maybe sometime after that, a little pessimistic cloud starts lumbering overhead and we wonder if we will ever get beyond these feelings. Perhaps those goals you can see yourself achieving in your mind are just never going to happen. Maybe you should just forget it. (Again I am gonna sidebar here and just say stop that, too. You are awesome and you will get there.) But that feeling is hard to kick.


Look, if you find yourself wallowing in some of these feelings when you reflect on your personal progress, start by acknowledging those feelings. They are there and they want you to notice, so notice. 

But don't stand there "noticing" for too long. They are a signal that you have to switch gears. 


If you find yourself feeling like everyone else is hitting those goals but you are feeling stuck, you need to start taking positive action right away. When you do, you are going to shake off the negative feelings and start replacing them with good, positive feelings, the ones that we LOVE so much.

But you have to be proactive.

So here are some positive action steps for you to consider:



Get Your Stress In Check



If you are not seeing weight loss goals accomplished, or sleep goals, or mood goals, or... oh, I could go on... check your stress. Stress can seriously interfere with progress in each of those areas and more. In general, I feel like we don't give stress its due credit until it gets wildly out of control but the truth is that stress is powerful and it interferes in our lives on many levels. The sooner we decide to invest a little time, a little energy, and a little love into stress management, the better. There are many self care practices that lend themselves to reducing stress, (This one is one of my favorites and it is a regular practice for me!)  But there are many ways to reduce stress. Finding what works for you is key. So find one that works for you. Find MANY that work for you and USE THEM.



Change Things Up! 



If you aren't seeing and feeling what you want, try something new. I once heard that what we are looking for is just outside our comfort zone and that has always resonated with me. We keep habits that are comfortable to us. We know them. They feel like a warm fuzzy blanket. But if those habits aren't giving us the results we want, the good moods, the high energy, the greats sleeps and the healthy weight... well, comfy or not, those habits have to get traded in for something new. 


Fair enough, right?


This is not always easy. I know.

Most of what I do as a coach is walk busy moms through the process of trading out old habits for new, healthier habits. If you add in one healthy habit at a time, before you know it, you have built healthier lifestyle that you can keep for a lifetime.  

So, if you are not where you want to be, consider a change in how you get there. What is one healthy habit you can build into your life right now?

Decide. Then do it. 



Embrace Your Wonderful Self and All You Have Already Accomplished.



Oh, yes. This is where I am going to get all warm and fuzzy on you. 


Well, come on. Let's be honest. If we are bringing up the topic of not being where you want to be in your journey, it doesn't come along with feelings of joy and laughter. It actually gets us feeling a little down. (We covered that, right?)


So, I want you to think about addressing your stress, I want you to think about how you can change things up AND I want you to sprinkle some serious love over you for already having done what you have done.

You haven't accomplished anything yet?

Oh, bologna!

I am going to make some assumptions here but I am guessing you are a busy mom like me SO you run your home, raise some beautiful chillies, handle 1,000 tasks throughout the day, many at the same time! You are probably a chef, a chauffeur, a teacher, a time keeper, and a referee. Ok if you haven't hit every goal mark as of yet, Super Woman, cut yourself some slack and know that you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Your journey is YOUR journey for a reason: it is meant for nobody but you. 


Embrace the progress you have made. Celebrate that you done some pretty remarkable things in your life. (You know you have!) Be proud of yourself. Throw some serious love in your own direction and then decide what is next.

If you need some support with that, we can help with that in the Real Moms Collaborative, our online community for busy moms. If you want more support than that and you are so, so ready for a free Breakthrough Coaching session with me, let's do it. (Just scroll down, Momma!)  If you have totally got this solo, just know that I am sending all the love, strength and positive vibes that you need in your direction right now. When moms support moms, there is no limit to what they can achieve.

I know you can do this. 


Thank you for reading!

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Hey, Momma! I am Michelle. I am a busy mom of 3, a certified holisitc health coach and owner of Real Moms, Real Health.  I studied at the Institute of Integratvie Nutrition and I am  Board Certified by the American Association of Drugless Practitioners. In addition to giving workshops and lectures, I work with busy moms to find a healthy weight, have more energy and inspire health in their household. I have simple strategies that any mom can use to make healthy living EASY. Learn more about my programs by checking out my website.  And don't forget to follow me on FACEBOOKTWITTER OR INSTAGRAM.