Healthy Mom

Personal Healing Starts with Kindness

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Sometimes it is easy for me to be open and present.

Sometimes it is not.

Sometimes, like recently, I even have to pull back.

All the way back.

Even further back than my wonderful community of moms could reach. 

And that is a big reason why I have been so quiet as of late.

For the sake of well being and growth, I’ve been intentionally quiet and it has been for the best. I was (and still am) immersed in some personal healing and being withdrawn has been part of that process. It has allowed me to realize some things that are true for me in the healing process, some things I am sharing in the hopes that they might be true for you as well. Maybe this is a little bit of service to you.

And “maybe” is worth it.

Life is full of ups and downs, no big surprise there. We all come to many points in our lives that require a great deal of healing. That healing begins with kindness. This is the most important truth when it comes to the topic of healing.

 

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kindness means acceptance.

kindness means forgiving.  

kindness means embracing the struggle for what it is and working through it without judgement.  




This is especially true when that struggle is your very own.

 

Those things may not feel like they can fit into a busy mom’s life. But when healing and growth have come due, then fitting in kindness and healing is not an option.

 

Personally, I had no choice but to stop everything in order to find the ways in which I could (and had to) show myself loving kindness as the first phase of healing. However, ideally we should be showing ourselves kindness daily so that we don’t come to a point of desperation.

If this sounds like the stage of your life that you are facing, here are a few simple ways to make personal healing a bit gentler through kindness.


the personal healing through kindness protocol:

  1. Rest. Before you reach what feels like the end of your patience, energy, and/or motivation, find ways to rest. Cancel everything for a day or two or more. Maybe the kids could use a good movie marathon or have some sleep overs they have been meaning to schedule. Maybe book yourself an overnight at a local, fancy-as-possible hotel. Whatever this means for you, clear space in order to rest.

    Without enough rest none of the rest of this will matter.

  2. Leave your home for self care. Follow this in whatever your comfort-zone and budget dictates, but as a mom this was vital. It doesn’t matter if you are leaving for a 5-day meditation retreat or you are pouring yourself a cup of tea in your favorite travel mug and driving to the beach to get lost in a book…just leave your home and spend time with yourself.

  3. Write a “Wish List of Self Care” and start scheduling it. If it helps you to imagine what you would tell your best girlfriend to do for improved self care, then write “her” list and keep it for yourself. Reach beyond the 5-minute dry brushing and weekly face mask. Although those are wonderful things to include in your busy life, the kindness required for healing goes beyond those practices.

    Think broader.

    My personal wish list includes solo walks in nature; massage; 1/2 day, 1-day, and 3-day retreats; time to read; time to journal; therapy; classes on topics near and dear to my heart; yoga; and more.

    Yes, more.

    Go for it.

  4. Ask for help implementing your wish list. Find babysitters, sign the kids up for classes, reach out for help and support. There are people who love you and will help you set your plan in motion.

  5. Build up your healing community. I am blessed to have a wide and loving community of moms. It is a community I cherish and adore.

    However that mom community doesn’t necessarily meet all of the needs I may have in order to heal and recover in ways that are specific and unique to me. I didn’t realize until I was in crisis that I needed to build up a community that was healing in ways that I was.

    Whether you are seeking to heal from stress, mental illness, addiction, abuse, or any other path that finds you focused on personal healing, find and build that community. The degree you will lean on them will be different for everyone but it can still offer invaluable love, support and strategies for healing.

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These steps are not meant to replace any professional support you might need or want but they are meant to support you in some loving, even if minor, way.

Personal healing is always possible.

It starts with kindness.


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3 Ways To Embrace & Love Your Momma Bod

Throughout my life I have spent a lot of time creating unrealistic body goals for myself. For a long time I was focused on dieting and felt that if I could just fit into a certain size or see a particular number on the scale then most of my problems would be solved. 

It is safe to say I have done some growing since those days.

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However it would feel like an eternity until I got to the point in my life, THIS point, where I feel absolutely grateful for the body I live in. 

 

Let's face it, having a healthy body image in our younger years can be a challenge, but it doesn't necessarily get easier once we enter motherhood unless we put in the effort it takes to change it.

 

I have gone through a shift in thinking that has led to me embracing this momma bod of mine, along with all the quirks and changes that come along with it. 

 

Today I pay much more attention to myself, how I feel, and all the ways this body has blessed me. I embrace and love this body.

 

And I am much happier for it.

 

If you are on a path to strengthening your self love and embracing your amazing momma bod, consider these three ideas:

 

1. Ditch the scale. If you want to feel rebellious liberation and take a huge step toward the loving embrace of your gorgeous momma bod, ditch the scale. Your body is a miraculous thing. Your heart beats without prompting, breathe moves through you without fail, and you move through everyday thanks to that body of yours. Release yourself from the burden of being defined by what is on a scale. It isn't telling you much. You already know what you need to know: your body is a blessing, not a number.

2. Replace negative self talk with positive thoughts. When you catch yourself saying, "Man, I could lose 5 pounds," or "Ugh, not looking forward to being in a bathing suit," exchange those thoughts for, "I am so proud of myself for fitting in that 2-mile walk after work," or, "I can not wait for all the fun we are going to have at the beach today!" We deserve better than to beat ourselves up with negative self talk. It is time to cut that out of our lives. make the effort to add more loving, positive self talk to your day.

3. Make choices that feel like you are honoring your body. Forget about thinking of healthy food choices with restriction and deprivation. That whole mindset can feel torturous and doesn't do much for making us feel embraced and loved. Instead, approach food choices with an end goal of feeling nourished and fueled. Go after foods that help you feel amazing. That is a mindset that comes from a place of self love and makes healthy eating so much easier.

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This idea doesn't have to stop at food choices. Go ahead and make fitness choices, clothing choices, girls night out choices that feel like you are honoring your body when you make them. There is no limit to how you can apply this to your life. And no limit to how positive the impact can be.

 

 

Here is the point: your body is beautiful, strong, wondrous, and worth celebrating. If you were waiting for someone to come along and tell you so, consider yourself told. Now it is time for you to strengthen that belief for yourself. 

 


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5 Ways to Feed Your Family Organic on a Budget

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Moms like us are always looking for ways to keep our families happy and healthy. Homemade meals, fresh snacks, and lunches packed with love are just the start. 

If you are a mom on a healthy mission like me, you might prioritize eating organic as well. Organic foods are produced with less pesticides and other toxins and can often have more beneficial nutrients than conventionally grown foods.

Personally, I wanted to reduce the amount of toxins my family was consuming for many reasons but doing so without a plan has the potential to break bank! 

But it doesn't have to! 

You can absolutley include organic food in your family meal plan without breaking your weekly food budget. I want to share with you some simple ways to do just that.

 

Here are 5 ways to

feed your family organic on a budget:

 

1. Know the Dirty Dozen and Clean 15.

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You don't have to buy EVERYTHING organic. If you know which produce is the dirtiest (contains the most pesticides and other toxins), you know which produce to prioritize. The dirtiest produce is a great list to start buying organic. If you know which produce is the cleanest (contains the least amount of pesticides and other toxins), then you know which produce you don't necessarily need to buy organic. 

If it is a choice between one of the other, your Dirty Dozen list should go organic first.

Here is the Clean 15 and Dirty Dozen list to get you started.

 

2. Shop Your local Farmers' Market.

Your local Farmers' Market can be a treasure trove of less expensive organic foods. Without having the expenses of packaging, shipping, and marketing products to different stores over long distances, local markets usually feature area farmers who are just trying to sell their latest harvest, including organic farmers. Most of the time, this is much less expensive than organic foods in your supermarket.

Want to find your local Farmers' Markets? Click here. 

 

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3. Plant a Garden.

You really can't get less expensive than growing your own! Besides saving money on organics, you get the added satisfaction of cultivating your own food. One of our personal favorite sources of seeds is Seed Saver Exchange. Definitely worth checking out. 

 

4. Reverse Meal Plan.

Instead of selecting recipes and then shopping for all of your ingredients, first see what is on sale. Shop for discounts and sale items first and then get creative with your bounty! This is a great way to save money. 

This can be a little scary at first but did you know there are websites like this one where you can search recipes by ingredients? That might help! (This is one too!

 

5. Coupons! 

I know what you are thinking, healthy, organic foods rarely have coupons in the Sunday paper. However, coupons for organic foods are out there. Companies like Organic Girl, Earthbound Farm, and others will send you coupons upon request! Check them out! 

 

Saving money on organic is possible. Try these 5 tips will help you feed your family organic on a budget. Which one of these strategies is first on your list to try?

 


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